On Writing and Unaccomplished Goals

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Happy Wednesday, Folks! It’s the first Wednesday of the month so you know what that means: it’s Insecure Writer’s Support Group Day! What’s the purpose, you ask? Well, writers from all over come together and discuss our fears and insecurities–all without feeling silly about it. And if you’re a writer reading this, why not join us if you haven’t already???

This month’s cohosts are Megan Morgan, Chris Votey, Viola Fury, Christine Rains, Madeline Mora-Summonte, L.G. Keltner, Rachna Chhabria, and Patricia Lynne! If you can, stop by their blogs, see what they’re up to, and leave some comment love.

Okay, guys. You might have noticed that I haven’t blogged in a couple of weeks (or maybe you haven’t, lol). And that’s because….


A couple of Thursdays ago, something fantastic happened: my husband and I had our second baby girl!

She was about three weeks ahead of schedule and I have to tell you: I’ve been quite the busy bee. With a one and a half year old, late night feedings for the newborn, and trying to get adjusted to this new “normal,” team no sleep is definitely back in the building (#teamnosleep).

And that leads me to my insecurity for this month. I don’t have the time to write like I used to, and when I have the time, I don’t have the quiet. I know things won’t be like this forever. I mean, kids do grow up–right? (Right???) But in the meanwhile, I have to rest in the knowledge that yes, I may not be producing books at a super fast rate, but at least I haven’t given up and I’m still writing. And even though I haven’t been able to market myself like I’d like to, at least I’m still doing something. It’s easy to get so overwhelmed by all of our life goals that we end up doing nothing, so I’d like to challenge myself (and some of you) to not be so down on ourselves whenever it takes us a tad bit longer to reach our goals (and I’d also like to challenge myself to not get so caught up in goal making and pursuing that I forget to live and enjoy life).

I was listening to the incomparable Les Brown (motivational speaker) recently and he said this quote: “By the yard it’s hard, but inch by inch, it’s a cinch.”

Ain’t that the truth???

 Sure, I haven’t accomplished everything on my goal list, but what matters is that I’m getting there. And I’m pretty sure that same sentiment applies to all of you. Instead of bemoaning all the things we didn’t get to do, maybe we should celebrate the things that we’ve already done. Life is short, you guys. Drink wine. Eat waffles. Be happy. And if you get the chance, then by all means, write.

 Anybody else hard on themselves over unaccomplished goals? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

22 thoughts on “On Writing and Unaccomplished Goals

  1. I’m way, way behind on this, but congratulations! Hope all’s going well with the new baby and she’s slightly less of a handful by now – oh, who am I kidding, I’m sure it’s much worse after nearly a month and a half. O_o Hope you and your husband are handling things as well as you can.

    As for goals, well, all of mine are currently unaccomplished, so I suppose (and keep hoping) I have nowhere to go but up.
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  2. Congratulations on the second baby, Quanie! Enjoy all the moments. I think times like this are when writing must be a form of happy company rather than work to lose even more sleep over. I’m generally toughest on myself over unaccomplished tasks but it’s more like a motivation than a depressed/frustrated chide.

  3. Hey there! Just me, bringing up the rear…sigh. Another munchkin? Fantastic! And congratulations of course:-) But honestly good woman, I’d be surprised if you’re even composing shopping lists! This could be the opportunity you never knew you’d ever try – writing for and about little people. You’ve got two perfect muses waiting to share every little gasp and giggle with you alone! Do you suppose we could get infrequent updates on the progress?
    Thinking of you…
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    • Awwww! Thank you, Diedre! I’m actually surprised that I’m able to get as much done as I have been. I think it’s just a testament to the fact that we don’t know what we’re capable of until we try. And I think that one day I might blog about parenting (not here, though). I also thought about writing children’s stories but people always get shot in my stories so…yeah. Probably wouldn’t work! LOL!
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  4. Congratulations! A new baby, a toddler and already blogging. Pardon me while I take a sympathy nap! You go, girl! I think you have a pretty good attitude about it all. Someone told me to break it down and not let myself get overwhelmed and it sounds like that’s just what you are doing too.

  5. Awwww Quanie!!!!! Congrats on your new baby girl! That’s awesome 🙂
    Two weeks ago? And you’re blogging? Not only blogging, but actually forming coherent thoughts and sentences. Hat’s off to you, homegirl. I’d probably be in a corner somewhere crying for my mama and popping pain pills. #RealTalk

    I love what you said here: “It’s easy to get so overwhelmed by all of our life goals that we end up doing nothing.” Been there, done that and just came up outta that mess! I’m seeking balance in all things and that includes my writing goals. Thanks for the reminder.
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  6. Congratulations on your new baby girl! I didn’t write at all for six months after my second son was born, but he was also very colicky. You’re so right about taking small steps and lowering your standards for awhile. Babies do grow up, but now that mine are older, it seems like it went so fast.

    • Thank you, Jenni! I remember being worried about my daughter getting too arm happy because we used to hold her so much and now guess what? She’s a toddler and doesn’t even think about being held (unless she’s really sleepy). Where did that time go?????
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  7. Congrats on the new addition! Those little ones will grow up and fast. Before you know it, they’ll be walking and talking. And you’ll be wishing for the good old days when they weren’t. I know I do.

  8. Congratulations, Girl!!! Oh my goodness, you had to have seen my eyes reading this. LOL. I was like wait… did she just have… which by the way, you are doing it just RIGHT!!! I wanted to enjoy just what I’m enjoying now long, long ago but glad I got to enjoy my children and LIFE for that matter (without thinking about writing). Time does fly, which you won’t have the chance to be with the girls and enjoy them at this stage. I’m not saying forget about writing… but do enjoy your life and babies now. It’ll just give you sooooo so so so much to write about when the nest empties out, which did I mention how time does FLY! It flies even faster when you’re having fun. WoW, I’m glad I popped by. I needed to read this!

    • You’re right! It seems just like yesterday when we had our first daughter and she’s almost two. Already! I love every moment, even the late night feedings and I always tell people thank God we have a village around us, cause Lord have mercy we sure need the help!
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  9. YAY!!!! And you’re already blogging? You’re amazing!

    Rachele Alpine had a baby a couple of years ago and had the same concerns about finding time to write. She’s sold two books since and always seems to find time, also while having a full-time job. I have no idea how she does it, but she manages!
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  10. Congrats on the new baby! Changes in life always upset the best laid writing plans, but things eventually settle and you get back into the swing of things. You’re already one step ahead by still finding the time to do something. That’s always better than nothing.

    ~April IWSG Co-Host Patricia Lynne aka Patricia Josephine~
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