#IWSG: Believe in Yourself

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I spend a great deal of time worrying about what others think of my work. Will they like it? What if they think it’s horrible? What if they laugh at me? I also spend a great deal of time waiting for emails that never come, news from literary agents, saying yay or nay over some project, or an email from someone, somewhere, telling me that the story I wrote made them feel. Something.

No more.

Because if we don’t believe in ourselves who will? Toni Morrison once said that if there’s a book that you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it. Write it! So from now on that’s what I am going to do. The fun has been taken out of what I love so much because of the incessant worrying about what other people think, and the worrying about whether or not I will be one of the lucky writers. One of those who “makes it.” Well guess what? From now on, the stories I write will be for me. The stories I want to see that just aren’t out there in the world yet. And if people don’t like it I can’t change that. But what I can change is worrying about the things that are out of my control, and that is whether or not people like my work or think it’s worth it, or even if they think it’s crap.

Being a writer isn’t easy. It gets easier over time, but never easy. But I write because I can’t help it. These characters live and breathe everyday, and I write them because they demand it. So today, I say to you believe in yourself. Because if you don’t. Well, you know the rest.

You can find a list of other IWSG members here. Please visit some of the wonderful blogs listed there and offer a word of encouragement to another writer.


8 thoughts on “#IWSG: Believe in Yourself

  1. I love this! I’ve had a similar experience and recently decided that I am going to write in my style, my way, regardless of the opinions of others. I will definitely check out the other members of IWSG

    • Hi Dahlia, that’s right. Write in your own style. It’s so easy to get caught up in what others think. Of course we want readers to like what we write but I think that if we write what’s in our heart and stay true to who we that’s the key. Good luck with your writing!
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  2. Love this post, and I’ve always loved that quote by Morrison. I think I went from writing short stories to writing novels when I found myself browsing book shops and looking for the story I wanted to tell. It’s hard to stop worrying, but it’s worth the effort it takes to believe in ourselves and embrace the writing we love.
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  3. It is hard to put your work out there. To worry if someone will love it or hate it. But there is one guarantee….someone will hate it LOL. Nice right? But that is just how it is. I look at the reviews the bestselling authors get and there are always bad ones. You can’t please everyone. The only one you have to worry about is yourself 🙂 Of course, that’s easy to write but hard to remember.

    Meredith
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  4. Hi Kiersi,

    I’m glad this helped. Sometimes we just need to hear it. We also need to learn to trust our own instincts when it comes to what we write. Best of luck to you. I know you’ll be successful no matter what.
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  5. I needed this SO much right now! Thank you. I’m falling into the same trap–caring too much about pleasing my critique partners or thinking about what an agent will like and not embracing my own voice and style. It’s slowly killing my creative instincts.

    Who cares if an agent likes it, right? We should just do what we love doing. That Toni Morrison quote basically is my rule to live by. Thanks, Quanie.

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