Balancing it All

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How do you balance writing, working, trying to connect with readers and writers online, and marketing yourself? There’s so much to learn and I’m finding that the more information I find, the more information I find. I’m getting knee deep in how to’s and can’t seem to claw my way out:

How to choose an Ebook designer!
How to promote yourself without seeming like you’re promoting yourself!
How to get on Amazon’s best seller’s list!
How to build your social media platform!
How do organize a blog tour!

Lord have mercy! And don’t even mention “how to maintain a social life when you’re pursuing a writing career and working full time and trying to blog and figure out how to do Facebook and Twitter when all you want to do is watch Bad Girls Club and have a glass of wine!”

Whoo! Am I the only one feeling overwhelmed? How do you balance? Thoughts?

24 thoughts on “Balancing it All

  1. I completely understand where you’re coming from! We’re already super busy before we’re trying to write, market, blog, tweet, Facebook…whew! I’m a SAHM, so I can’t even imagine working outside the home and trying to do all of this. So I give a lot of credit to those of you who do and still find time to write. I

    haven’t figured out how to balance it all yet. I think I’m still trying to figure it all out, too. And we keep missing the Bad Girl’s Club!! >.<
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    • Missing the Bad Girls Club? * Pauses. Hyperventilates* But how??? I mean, okay, I guess it can be done if you’re getting caught up on past seasons, but anyway, yes. Finding a balance is still a challenge. People have suggested scheduling but I can’t seem to do that so I just wing it. We’ll see how that goes!
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  2. Hi Quanie, don’t worry, you aren’t the only one in this. 🙂 It took me a while to get used to social media and I’m pretty sure I still haven’t perfected the art of self-promotion. Social media is useful, and I try to stay active either on FB or Twitter. But once I find myself getting overwhelmed, I stop, turn off the internet entirely and give myself the permission to just read and write (in longhand). I give myself permission to step away from social media for maybe 2 days. When I get back to it, I’m usually happier.
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  3. I agree. This whole process can be overwhelming! I’m still trying to find that balance myself. That whole platform-building business? Total fail for me.
    I suppose the biggest way to balance is to know your limits and set some *realistic* goals, and above all remember that writing is what we do. I’ve got way too much going on to blog every day, pin once every four hours, and tweet myself into twitter jail. Oh yeah, and work, spend time with the fam, go to school, and crank out a best-selling novel [that is so perfect by the way, there is no need for editing or rewrites 😉 ]
    Ain’t nobody got time for dat!
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  4. I think we all struggle with this! I like some of the suggestions given already in the comments. Especially the “have fun” while doing this advice. Good to have a great support group like this to turn to. My only advice would be to prioritize the writing over the social networking or promotion, etc.

  5. I totally feel your pain, Quanie. I attended a publishing seminar given by The Book Doctors last Fall. Even though I thought I had a better understanding of the self-publishing world, I still feel overwhelmed, almost a year later. I haven’t figured out how to balance my time very well and like you, I wish I could just curl up and catch up on Prison Break or simply read a book that I’ve been looking forward to. And when I’m busy giving reviews, updating my blog, trying to conquer my tweets and Facebook posts, helping others, researching for my new blog, still keeping a handle on my children’s work, AND yes, I have a fulltime job…when can I actually write? What I have learned to do is that when I’m feeling the moment and something moves me to write, I just sit at my computer and go with it, and do nothing else. I try to do this mostly in the morning when I’m alone and leave the rest of my networking, social media, etc. for whatever free time I have left. It’s hard but if we want to have a career in writing, we must do our best with what time is given to us. Ether that, or win the power ball. The power ball sounds fantastic right about now! It is Wednesday, right?=)
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    • Isn’t it a lot? Sometimes I wanna curl up in a ball, too. With a big glass of wine. And some chocolate (okay, I’m getting hungry…). But you are right; if we want a career in writing we have to do our best with the time we’re given. Or, as you suggest, win the power ball:)
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  6. It’s been a big struggle for me. A couple of solutions I’ve found–to make writing my blog something truly enjoyable for me meant taking the risk of looking vulnerable and not acting like the writing coach with all the answers. Also, taking on only what I can manage–not trying to be everywhere at once. Oh, and not comparing myself with the productive mania of everyone else! Thanks for the post!
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  7. Being organized helps. Scheduling things ahead also helps (like writing and pre-scheduling blog posts to launch automatically). Sometimes you’ll need to simply say no. It took me a while as a new blogger to realize I couldn’t do every bloghop that came along. LOL

    Other than being proactive, you have to get good at prioritizing things and making the best use of your time. Things may need to be sacrificed for other things, and sometimes life will get in the way.

    As for promotion, hiring a book blog tour site/package can help. 😉
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  8. I hear you. I spent the last year furiously reading and studying everything I could about publishing, and now I feel like I can step back and take a break. Whatever sank in, sank in. Now I’m settling back into the happy medium of focusing on writing, and recognizing I don’t need to (and can’t) give 100% to the rest of it.
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    • That’s what I’m talking about; a happy medium. I was getting so obsessed with trying to figure it all out that I realized I wasn’t having fun. Something clicked for me this morning: I should be having fun with this whole indie publishing process. If not, what’s the point?

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