Are You Setting Reasonable Goals?

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So, today is Insecure Writers Support Group Day, and it could not have come at a better time. But before I start unleashing my fears and insecurities upon you lovely folks, let’s take a moment for those who aren’t familiar with IWSG.

Purpose of IWSG: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

Our awesome co-hosts this month are Nancy Gideon, Bob R Milne, Doreen McGettigan, Chrys Fey, Bish Denham, and Pat Garcia! If you can, stop by their blogs and say hello:)

So, I am severely behind on my WIP. Like, so much so I won’t even tell you when I was planning to release the book because at this point, that deadline is laughable. I was supposed to have a beta reader draft ready in June and let’s just say that at the rate I’m able to write, they might get the book on Christmas, 2025.

I’ve been finding it nearly impossible to work on this book and I beat myself up about it quite a bit, but something has dawned on me: perhaps this book is right where it needs to be and I’m the one setting unreasonable deadlines.

I thought I would be able to:

Write at least three books this year.
Maintain another blog (ha!)
Have this current WIP ready for a fall release (double ha!)
Among several other, unrealistic goals

Here’s what I’ve learned, especially since becoming a parent:

I have a better chance at winning the lottery than I do at getting up and being able to write when I want to
Deadlines are beginning to laugh at me
I have to stop being so doggone hard on myself because sometimes the day brings things that you don’t expect, and life won’t end when you’re thrown off schedule. You just have to roll with the punches.

I’m a lot happier since I’ve decided to just roll with things and let life happen. I’ll work on this book when time allows (and work on my million and one side ventures), but in the meanwhile, I’m vowing to stop being so hard on myself and just enjoy life.

What about others?  How do you cope when you don’t meet deadlines? Do you overestimate yourself? I’d love to hear your thoughts!